Did you upload it too google? And when it gets scanned are there any errors?
You also should have it formatted like this:
<? xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?>
<urlset xmlns="http://www.google.com/schemas/sitemap/0.84"
xmlns:xsi="http://www.w3.org/2001/XMLSchema-instance"
xsi:schemaLocation="http://www.google.com/schemas/sitemap/0.84
http://www.google.com/schemas/sitemap/0.84/sitemap.xsd">
<url>
<loc>http://www.adult-chitchat.com/</loc>
<lastmod>2007-03-13</lastmod>
<changefreq>always</changefreq>
<priority>0.8</priority>
</url>
</urlset>
That beginning part is important. Look it up on google when creating them. And make sure it is uploaded to the root directory of the server and that it is saved in UTF-8!
Hope this helps a little
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